How do we (not) have an orgasm? How do we (not) have money? How do we (not) have children?

  • Reading performance
  • Free entry on registration

90 min.


“Sometimes I feel nothing, sometimes I give everything.”

“I’m in a monogamous relationship. People around me would rather understand adultery than polygamy.”

“I’ve been in a relationship for 14 years, we get along very well, lots of activities together, but we also cheat on each other. I don’t know if it’s really a healthy relationship, but it’s hard to break up, for both of us.”

“I’m a very sexual person and I deeply regret being with someone I don’t get along with at all on that side. We’ve reached a dead end in our relationship about sex. We haven’t done it for almost a year, but we fight every day about it.”

“I identified with monogamy for a long time, but not now. It seems to me that the mentality we were raised with made us feel shame and fear, but we’ve evolved so much that I think it’s a shame not to try harder and stop your sexual instincts.

“I’m married and my husband is the most important person to me. I support monogamy, the monogamous relationship seems to me to reflect respect between partners. My intimate relationship with my husband is platonic, sexual desire is not the first priority. I rarely have orgasms, with the help of my partner or through masturbation.”

“I was still young 23-24-25 and everyone I knew asked me when I was getting married and having children. Fucking never and it’s none of your fucking business! No matter how edgy I answered them, their retort was that we’ll talk again in a few years. Guess what, I’m 35 and I still don’t want kids. And if this society wasn’t such an imbecile, I’d have tied my tubes long ago.”

“What combination of orgasms/money/kids is optimal?
Zero kids, billions of money and thousands of orgasms.”

These are just a few of the nearly 100 responses to the form we sent you a while ago.

How often do we think about these topics?

How often do we tell ourselves not to think about these issues?

We have thought so much that we have opened the discussion to you online, and now we are preparing to open it with courage and honesty face to face.

So we challenge you to 3 evenings of performance-readings where we exercise our empathy and imagination in an attempt to create an overview of our generation and the issues we face, and moreover to find out (perhaps) how all these themes intertwine.

We propose a relaxed atmosphere underpinned by honesty, equality and inclusiveness, a place where we hope you will find plenty of space for reflection and partners for dialogue.

Concept and direction: Adriana Radu
Directing and production assistance: Irina Slate
Scenography: Andreea Diana Nistor
Performer: Tiberiu Enache
Illustration: Lucian Gherasim

The event is part of the project “EGALIS: Gender Equality through Social Change and Education”, developed by the Partnership for Equality Centre, in partnership with Front Association, AnA Cultural and Scientific Society for Feminist Analysis (AnA), Action Centre for Equality and Human Rights Association (ACTEDO), PLURAL Association and SEX vs THE STORCK Association, with the financial support of Active Citizens Fund Romania, a programme funded by Iceland, Liechtenstein and Norway through EEA Grants 2014-2021.
Working together for an inclusive Europe!

Participation is free of charge based on the form available here.

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